Female Ejaculation: It's Time For The Truth!

By Dr Irene Cooper

I hear you ask, ‘Female ejaculation? What’s ‘female ejaculation’? They never taught me anything about female ejaculation at school.’

Even if you received some sex education in school it’s a certainty that you were never told about female ejaculation!

If your experience of formal sex education was anything like mine, then you probably found out later that a lot of the more basic information was missing, never mind something as controversial as this!

Were you like the girls in my class? We were told about the male and female reproductive organs and how a fertilised egg grows into a baby. It was with some reluctance and embarrassment that the teacher told us that men produced sperm - but didn't say how. Sexual intercourse itself wasn’t explained or described and just how the sperm got to the egg was left to our imagination.

Male ejaculation wasn’t described. There was nothing about the pleasure that men and women felt during sex; nothing about the increased arousal culminating in the rhythmic pumping of semen into the vagina during the male orgasm. (The word orgasm was never used.) None of us, probably including the teacher, had any idea that there was such a thing as a female orgasm so, naturally, that didn’t get a mention. I spent years believing that women put up with having sex just to have children and to keep their lustful husbands satisfied. Having sex was just part of a woman’s wifely duties along with doing the washing and the cooking. (We are talking about a lot of years ago!) There was no clue to be found anywhere that women could actually enjoy it.

If none of us were even taught about the female orgasm it’s not surprising that we still know absolutely nothing at all about the possibility of female ejaculation. Most adults have never heard of female ejaculation and most of those who have don’t believe it really happens.

So what's the truth about female ejaculation?
There’s a whole load of total nonsense talked about it (mainly by people who are trying to sell you something) and separating the facts from the fiction we’re bombarded with from the porn peddlers isn’t easy.

First of all, we’re not talking about pints of liquid being squirted out. Don’t confuse this with the ‘party trick’ stuff you can see in pornographic (squirting) movies.

Female ejaculate (when there is any at all) isn’t naturally propelled with great pressure, as is the case with semen.

In the same way that a female orgasm isn’t necessary every time you have sex, there’s nothing wrong with you if you’ve never experienced a so-called female ejaculation. There's no great mystery to it. Any woman can produce the same effect providing she doesn't mind making her partner and the bed they're lying on very wet.

It has nothing to do with your ability to conceive or to enjoy sex.

The reason only a small percentage of women have experienced it is that most of us have been brought up to be reluctant about relaxing control of our bladder anywhere other than in the bathroom...and, yes, 95% of any fluid released when a woman reaches her orgasm comes from her bladder.

Female ejaculation comes from the urethra not the vagina.
If we discount the vaginal lubrication that commonly occurs during sexual arousal, the vast majority of any liquid that’s produced during the female orgasm is produced in the bladder and expelled through the urethra. Immediately, that makes it sound as if we’re simply talking about women losing control and urinating at the moment of orgasm. However, scientific tests conducted by Dr. Gary Schubeck Ed. D. A.C.S. have shown that this fluid is not altogether urine. Levels of urea and creatinene in the ejaculate of the women in the test were much lower than in the samples taken from their urine before the tests began.

Besides the ‘de-urinated’ fluid that comes from the bladder, some women can sometimes produce a small amount of milky discharge from the Skenes glands. These glands are the female equivalent of the prostate gland in men and with continued stimulation they may produce a fluid that can come out through the urethra during a woman's orgasm.

The Skenes glands were named after the physician who first described them, Alexander Skene, and are also known as the paraurethral glands. They’re found on the upper wall of the vagina in the area known as the G-spot. This whole general area is known as the urethral sponge and stimulation causes it to swell with blood in the same way that a penis becomes erect. Because these glands drain into the urethra there is a similarity here with the way that men urinate and ejaculate through the same opening.

Most of us would be mortified at 'having an accident' in public. Losing bodily fluids in an uncontrolled way is what elderly, incontinent people do; it's definitely not what we do. So, when in the past, women have lost control of their bladder during sexual intercourse it's been acutely embarrassing for them - and for their unsuspecting partners too!

For those of you who want to experiment, my advice is that you first find out what it feels like on your own; preferably in the bath. Empty your bladder before you start. The new fluid that's generated in your bladder during sexual arousal should be released as you reach your orgasm. Remember that most women either haven't ever tried this or have found it doesn't work for them, so don't expect too much. If you find that you experience a pleasurable result you may want to let your sexual partners know about it. Don't be surprised, however, if they aren't too excited about your love-making being a lot wetter than it normally is. Be aware that it could prove to be a massive sexual turn-off for both of you.

Irene Cooper is the author of My Female Orgasm